August 2025
This month, River learned to ride a “big boy” bike. Jack finally said “Mom” (he skipped Mama altogether). Bud engaged in hours and hours of sanding, painting, measuring, and drilling. It was not uncommon to hear a pause in Bud’s work and a shout, “I am NOT Bob Villa!” followed by Bud emerging from wherever he was working, stating resignedly, “I have to go back to the hardware store.” I think in Eleanor and River’s eyes, he really is a Bob Villa. I cherished getting up early with Jack, snuggling on the couch, reading a book and drinking my coffee while the rest of the house slept, with no worry of the time. Bud and I celebrated our 15 year wedding anniversary with a trail run and a visit to the Mattapoisett Museum (thanks for babysitting, Mom and Don!). We all took a trip to the Boston Museum of Science, struggling to find parking, because Boston is full of parking garages, and you cannot park a car with a roof box in a parking garage. We all had some excitement when I attempted to park in a garage that claimed it had the appropriate clearance, but then the clearance abruptly reduced and we comically had to back out of the garage the way we came, both Bud and River shouting instructions, Eleanor and Jack giggling, Mom panicking. We finally parked and walked in the rain. On the way home, we ate delicious empanadas.
The kids spent hours on their bikes. I have three chalk lines drawn on the driveway, “1” being the closest to the house, and “3” being the furthest. Depending on what I am doing while they ride, I tell them which line they can ride to. A common phrase is: “Yes, you can go ride your bikes. Use line 2 until I’m done cleaning up the kitchen” or “I will be doing some work outside. You can ride to line 3 until I’m done.” Eleanor may be the fastest balance bike rider ever. The kids will ride in circles, stopping to chat with Miss Nancy next door, or Miss Mya, who, walking her sweet husky Teddy, will say, “Teddy, sit for a pet” so we can properly greet him.
Jack turned 1! This is the day he first said “Mom” (sounds like “Mum.") I was loading our things into the car to drive to Pop Pop’s (Jack’s birthday twin), and I had strapped Jack into his boost seat on the porch so he would stay in one place. He couldn’t see me as I was putting our bags into the trunk, and he was leaned over as far as he could go calling, “Mum! Mum!” He can also say “bye,” “yum” (his word for “I want to eat”), “this,” and of course, “Dada.” He shakes his head no, waves goodbye, and pretends to talk on the phone.
We took many walks, pushing two kids in the stroller with River riding on the back, dodging golfers as we hustled down Reservation Road, until we arrived to the bike trail, and then off the kids would run, calling “Hi!” to all the other recreators. August may have been the best month so far.
Bud and I went for a morning swim on one of the few days the kids went to daycare this month.
Bud and I went for a morning swim on one of the few days the kids went to daycare this month.
Bud and I went for a morning swim on one of the few days the kids went to daycare this month.
River engineered some new kind of slide that ended with Eleanor lying on the grass in giggles.
River spend time learning to draw.
Bud carrying in the cabinets we bought for the kids' bedroom. With 3 kids in one room, we needed some more storage.
Bud spent most of August on house projects, working into the wee hours of the morning most nights.
New cabinet storage for the kids.
After running an errand in Providence, we all walked to a Fox Point playground.
Fox Point playground
Fox Point playground
River made a friend.
Bud celebrates as River learned to balance and pedal.
Bud celebrates as River learned to balance and pedal.
The kids enjoyed finding, cleaning, and painting rocks.
The kids enjoyed finding, cleaning, and painting rocks.
Bud returning home with supplies to build cabinets in the kids' room.
Walking to the Museum of Science
Enjoying empanadas while outside, it downpour.
Found empanadas after the museum.
Eleanor admiring her new dress from Aunt Marca
Breakfast on a date day
Jack's needs a bath after the playground.
Jack's needs a bath after the playground.
Enjoying the water during an evening walk.
Bud and I after our anniversary trail run.
Enjoying the water during an evening walk.
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Balance Bikes and a Balanced Meal
August 6
Happy Birthday, Jack and Pop Pop!
New Hampshire Camping Trip 2025
Labor Day weekend we decided to take the kids on their first camping vacation since River was a baby.
Imagine explaining “camping” to a space alien.
Human: For a vacation, we are going camping.
Alien: What is a vacation?
Human: A vacation is somewhere you go to relax, see new things, recreate, and experience culture.
Alien: Sounds great. What is camping?
Human: Camping is when you leave your home and set up a make-shift home in the woods and live outside. You build a little tent to sleep in.
Alien: With separate rooms and beds for everyone? And what about staying warm?
Human: No, we all squish in together in one tiny room. And for warmth, you build a fire, and then just dress warm for bedtime.
Alien: This doesn’t sound like a vacation.
Human: No, I guess it doesn’t.
Bud and I hadn’t gone on a vacation in a couple years, since Eleanor was a toddler. And we hadn’t been camping since River was maybe 9 months old. It had been a lot of work to camp with a baby, and we had never stayed for more than one night. But we missed it so much, having spent so much of our fifteen years before children in the outdoors. So on Friday, August 29, over breakfast of Bud’s homemade pancakes, we spontaneously decided to pack up and go camping. While the kids finished their pancakes, I called a campground we love in New Hampshire’s White Mountains. And we started the process of packing for a camping trip. We excavated our old camping and backpacking gear- sleeping pads and quilts, our tents and poles, our headlamps and backpacks. A short 5.5 hours later, we were finally ready to go. Bud had packed up the car while I prepped the kids. River and Eleanor packed little backpacks containing one book each and their stuffies. River packed a Star Wars book and his bear, Agoo, and Eleanor packed “You are Home” and her panda, named Panda. Eleanor had been waiting eagerly to leave for so long, she fell asleep standing up, all ready to leave with her pack.
If I had reservations about camping with one baby, I was quite anxious about camping with three. What if Jack cries all night? What if no one can sleep? What if Elleanor can’t do potty at the campground? What if River burns himself on the fire? What if Jack is too cold? What if Eleanor wanders off and gets lost? We arrived later than expected, having hit a lot of traffic. We had debated stopping at a hotel room for the night. We were worried about setting up the tent in the dark. Last light was around 7:30, and our ETA was 6:50. We still had to stop for food for supper. We arrived just at about 7:10, having picked up some McDonalds takeout in a neighboring town, giving Bud about twenty minutes to set up the tent alone while I walked the kids to the bathrooms. By the time the three kids and I returned to our campsite, Bud had two tents perfectly pitched, one for sleeping, and our old backpacking tent for our clothes and diapers and other gear. He must have set a record for how quickly he built those tents. Then, while I got the kids eating their Filet o’ Fishes, Bud built a fire. It was fully dark now, and the kids were all wired. It was past everyone’s bedtime. But we couldn’t get ready for bed without roasting some marshmallows around the fire. River cooked his marshmallows to they were crispy, and Eleanor preferred hers raw. Finally, having made a last trip to the potty and having brushed teeth, it was time for the part of the trip about which I felt the most trepidation. It had been a successful first evening, but it was bedtime. And some of my fears came to fruition. Jack did cry. But I was able to rock and cuddle him until he fell asleep. And other fears were unfounded. River and Eleanor were comfortable and happy sleeping together in our old two-person sleeping bag, the one we had slept in camping at the same campground, pregnant with River. They slept on top of our Z Lite accordion style sleeping pads. Although they didn’t fall asleep right away, they were calm and happy. And they did get chilly during the night, but it was nothing that an added sweater couldn’t fix. And Jack was toasty warm in his wearable sleeping bag. Bud stayed up with the fire, but I didn’t dare leave the sleeping kids in the tent for fear of waking them up. The campground was packed, and I did not want Jack to wake up screaming and disrupt our neighboring campers. The kids did all wake periodically during the night, but I was able to get them back to sleep with a cuddle or reassuring words. And River did need Bud to take him on a middle of the night pee, which ended up being one of his favorite parts of the whole trip.
Saturday, the kids woke at the usual time despite having gone to bed hours past their normal bedtime. 5:15am, we were up and at ‘em. We had breakfast in town at Flapjacks, which River loved for the toy train and bear-themed decor, and Eleanor loved for the pancakes and sausage. We took a little hike, played in the river, and had s’mores at night. Bedtime was much earlier, and everyone slept a bit better the second night. Everyone was perfectly warm, despite temperatures getting down to 48 degrees.
Sunday morning, Jack woke again at his usual 5:15am, so everyone was up bright and early. Bud had packed up much of camp the night previous, and he dried and packed up our tent while I got the kiddos ready. We left early Sunday morning. A very yummy breakfast at Benton’s Sugar Shack in Thornton signified the conclusion of a mostly successful camping trip, our first in four years. We learned plenty of lessons for our next trip, which we booked on the drive home. We felt confident enough to invite Memere, Pepere, Pop Pop and Nana along. We will go Columbus Day weekend, during the Fall Foliage, our favorite time of the year. I was nervous about camping for sure, and if we hadn’t pulled off the bandaid, so to speak, it may have been four more years before we finally attempted one of our favorite past times again. Our camping trip was not a “vacation” in the traditional sense, but it had everything we really want in a vacation- family, the outdoors, challenges to overcome together, and memories we will always cherish. It was a perfect vacation to be our first as a family of five.
Packing the kiddos up
Eleanor and Jack are ready to go.
Eleanor fell asleep waiting to leave.
Our first campfire, thanks to Bud.
The kids' first campfire marshmallows
Bud told me this was a photo of a UFO. It was really a neighboring campsite.
River saw this sign and said, very seriously and sadly, "Oh, babies are not allowed in this bathroom."
Watching the toy train travel around the restaurant.
A little walk in town after breakfast.
A door to nowhere
Bud's amazing tent setup
Eleanor's favorite part of the trip- the river!
Hiking on the Discovery Trail